- Always listen to your gut
- Don't be afraid to ask questions and advocate for your family
- You won't have all the answers
- You may feel inadequate; please trust me, you are not, you are/will be a great mother and will do what's best for your baby
- Create a parenting network, even when you feel too tired to- go to breastfeeding support group or mothering circle etc.. you will be forever grateful for those connections and friendships
- Find a pediatrician that you love and trust, and one that takes the time to listen
- You probably won't do everything the way you envisioned, but you will do it your way and you will be great
- Don't be too proud to ask for help or solicit advice
- But also don't fee like you have to listen to all the advice- you could easily get lost in it
- If you decide to breastfeed, know that it may not be as simple and as beautiful as you imagined (it may be and that is awesome!), but it may also be a challenging, and painful journey, and remember that it's not all or nothing...
- Make decisions based on what is best for Your baby and Your family and (easier said than done) but don't worry about others' opinions and try to keep the Mommy Gilt at bay...
- Lower your expectations/don't put so much pressure on yourself
- Be kind to yourself
- Take a deep breath
- You will probably be more tired than you have ever been- sleep deprivation can make you crazy- it can make you cry- remember that it will not last for ever and figure out ways to get you through it... (i.e. solicit help, squeeze in a nap, explore how your baby sleeps best..swaddled, dark room etc.)
- No phase lasts forever...and they will eventually sleep :-)
- Hormones are crazy, you will cry, it is normal
- Remember dads and grandparents may not do things exactly as the way you do, but your baby will be safe and happy
- Find a way to take time for yourself, even if it's a cup of coffee or put baby in the stroller and go for a walk- fresh air does wonders
- Remember when all else fails, try a change of scene
- People say enjoy every second... I actually say that to people often.. b/c it is true, the days we have with these little ones are long, but the years we have with them are short .. Truth is you may not enjoy every second... you may want to scream from time to time and that's ok!
Congratulations if you are expecting or a first-time mom how incredibly exciting- I'm so thrilled for what is in-store for you! If it's not your first rodeo, what advice would you give or what do you wish someone had told you?
Thanks as always for stopping by!